Goin’ to a concert Wanna Get Married?

Goin’ to a concert Wanna Get Married?.


Goin’ to a concert Wanna Get Married?

Over the past year, I have noticed many special moments at shows from the vantage point of the coat check. Life changing special moments that all of us are a part of either by choice or by the impromptu let’s get hitched bomb, the PROPOSAL. This year of 2014, the hitch bomb ( and yes you heard hitch bomb, here first on CMC) was being used in full effect. In fact, I was at a show about 3 weeks ago, and the band took a talk break after the 5th song, and proceeded to announce that a certain person in the audience wanted to ask a certain person in the audience to get married. This particular show the lead singer, called out to the guy, and like a sports caster giving the play by play called the dude out, dude proposed, girl  responded, and then the lead singer comments…”how about a kiss to your future husband?! AHHHHH.. and for those of us who couldn’t see anything cause the room was dark and set for show… no spot light on the couple so the play by play was all we could go by. The comment from the lead singer at the end… was the open mouth and insert foot moment, that left the entire room uncomfortable,  it felt forced and awkward, and the band proceeded onto the next song like no big deal. It’s like someone asking you how are you doing, and before you can answer they start talking about themselves. But, for guys who go down this questionable path to matrimony, and want a public display of affection and announcement these are just one of the pitfalls I have witnessed. And no rejections thus far, that would be really something to write about.

One time, I had a guy come up to me at coat check and ask me if I could get him to talk to the band backstage. And the usual, No, came out. He seemed  desperate in a way, and proceeded to tell share that he was going to be asking his girlfriend to marry him and that they had met at this bands show.. blah blah blah.. and my heart went out to the dude. In these cases, you pick and choose if you want to help or offer advice. I decided to throw this dog a bone, that got him talking to a crew member for the band. I told him it’s not guaranteed but there maybe hope that they will help you out. And folks, low and behold before their special  favorite song , the band actually got the couple on stage. And another hitch bomb exploded properly because the band was super cool. The audience was totally apart of the collective moment, the couple engaged, and another successful coat check shift/show/life moment witnessed by moi.

Now, folks this was not no sold out area show with an $80-$150.00 ticket price to get in, it was more of $20-30 ticket with an emerging band that may grace the 2am Carson Daly show caliber of band, or just a popular local band. So, don’t go assuming that your major headlining touring acts are going to entertain the request to drop a hitch bomb. It’s always 50/50…

Music and Love, the love of music the memories that a song can bring you back to a memory is powerful stuff. And the lengths a person will go to declare love, and wanting to spend the rest of their lives with you also, powerful stuff. So to those folks out there.. who are on their path to marriage, and the idea of a hitch bomb is totally your style.. go for it, but have realistic ideas on the show, and a backup plan.

Until Next Time


I’m Checkin’ for Fall..HELLO EVERYONE

Hi Everyone,

To all the 41 people who have seen my coat check blog, or who have stumbled onto it from the internet welcome. I did some revamping and took a summer break, but do not fret. I had to revamp myself and my blog. I have to admit that aiming to do a posting a week, on coat check burnt me out, and I did have to take a break mid summer and now that I am recharged and ready to talk coat check, among other topics. It’s Fall anyways, so there will be much a coat check to talk about.

As a blogger, a beginner blogger at that.. it’s a constant learning/sharing curve. I am proud to say that I have found my blogger voice and it feels great. So with that being said, I am going to start sharing a little more nightlife with you. I do work in a few coat checks, and I also sell merchandise for touring bands. I see between 10-12 bands a week, notable touring acts to the small local acts. My life is one big mash up of social work.. and yes folks when I am not writing about coat check topics, I will be writing about music, musicians, and bands. it’ a boarder, bigger, bolder, blog.  And, trust me..

I will be sharing MY opinions and observations and not holding back. I find that doing  blogs does test your should I ? Shouldn’t I write about it, and then you read it back and then start editing yourself to where your blog ends up; a scaled back grey version of what you expected.

So.. Cheers to Fall! All the Focks! Accessories, Questions, Comments, Compliments, Disses.. It’s on Bitches~


I was at this show.. and got caught people watching this college indy-pop crowd.

High school to post college your all 21 now, able to drink  and still following the same high school band . More of an observation you all went to school at same time, and share a fondness for a particular local band. It’s happened to be a three day weekend. With a apple cider beer in hand the holiday weekend was into full swing since Monday was a holiday for most. It was a show were post high school 21 year olds were reuniting at a local show where the high school band has stayed together and now is new performing at a local venue and its an excuse to party with old friends new ones single mingle you know the drill. You obviously know all the words to the 1st CD, since everyone is doing shots and screaming them to the top of their lungs.
It’s a chance for the awkward high school ugly ducklings, to shed their nerdy selves and appear as swans. Where the girl with the secret crush on the lead singer is now able to strut her stuff and make a new first impression. A time to see that guy that was always double fisting drinks at high school parties, still holding strong and still double fisting bottles of beer, this time it with a vapor pen. It’s the post high school homecoming at a live show only older.

The odd introductions…of the new beau or girlfriend, and the catch up on the rumor mill. Oh… the fishbowl.

Summer in the coat check

Hey All,

My once a week blog has an impromtu Gone Fishing moment.. Oh well, it happens. Its summer , and the first few days of it hit me like a brick. I was wanting to play hookie from everything.. ha ha as you can tell.

Summer in the coat check has thus far been super sparse. Even living in a city known for the fog.. it’s been slim checkin’s. I worked a 1200 person show the other night really close to a sell out and out of all those people who came I got about 30 items that were checked in.. and walked away with a whole $2 dollars in tips. So that is what I mean by summer and working in the coat check. Actually, it’s hit or miss it really depends on the show and crowd. I am sure if you have been reading my other posts you know what I am talking about.

Most these days are the giant backpacks people bring to shows. It seems as if people are hauling their belongings everywhere hence making it for a heavy haul to attend a show. The purse, The merse, and The Backpack. They just keep evolving..

So summer shows and festivals you may want to ear mark for

Ginger Baker was just here playing at Yoshi’s in Oakland.. ahhhh next time, he may be making his way to your neck of the woods if so you must check it out.. I saw the documentary and it made me more of a fan!

Super freestyle explosion is this weekend 6/28 in SJ.. .with Lisa LIsa Cult Jam, JJ FAD… ole skool

Die Antwoord – Playing in the Bay In September

Burger Boogaloo Music Fest , SF/OAK – Ronnie Spector is to headline it ( I personally have to see this)

King Diamond will be coming to the Warfield in SF , on Devil’s night.

The Treasure Island Music Festival

Outside Lands is coming up

Of course there are the free Shows in Golden Gate Park during the summer..

Hardly Strictly Bluegrass, and Stern Grove Festival

Lots of summer time fun stuff to do.. and this is just in the SF Bay Area…

Don’t forget the July 4th Coney Island Hot Dog Eating Contest

If you are reading my blog from another city/town.. what is the big Summertime show/festival you go to?


I’ll be back.. next week. Until then LGOYW

Creative Shoving/Double Ups/ And The Before

This week’s installment of Check My Coat is going to cover the infamous DOUBLE UP.  Some coat checkers probably have other terms for it, but that is what I call it. What is a double up? Double Ups are from the customer not paying attention to the signage of your coat check. If your coat check is per item then the  PER is not being paid attention too; a lot of customers turn off their thinking caps. This is when patrons double up or add on and assume that they will pay for one item for all the items that they want checked in.
 I think it makes the patron feel like they are getting away with something, the rush of getting one over on someone…somewhere this feeling is similar to a  high; like the extreme cheapskates show.. like where there was a lady who made her family bath in the same bathwater because she wanted to save on her water bill.  Folks who double up… you could definitely be on the road to living a life of unchanged bathwater.. But after reading this you may have a change of thinking.

Let’s elaborate… THE DOUBLE UP
2 friends walk up to a coat check, and one is wearing a thin sweater and the other one has a coat…
They think they will pay for one item by shoving the thin sweater into the coat sleeve, or make the sweater a part of the coat to get away with paying the extra $.
This happens all the time. It’s part of the job. You give a service, and then people try all kinds of different ways to circumvent paying. It happens everywhere in any business..

Then there is the BEFORE..
the 2 friends that walk up to the coat check, obviously who are not ready to submit their items, and they proceed to do all this creative shoving of items right in front of the coat checker with this weird look on their faces like we read the sign but are doing this anyway. This does nothing more than cause the coat checker to have some kind of reaction.. Mine usually is the eye roll… and the the verbal it’s per item.  Sometimes, I have a Jerry Seinfeld moment of where I think of the soup nazi.. You ask questions about the soup.. “No soup for you” that episode is so funny if you haven’t seen it yet you should.  No doubling up…”No coat check for you” and then you hear the laugh the laugh of the count from Seseme Street. HA HA HA…

Let me be clear people.. none of this is good. None of this is acceptable. If I had 4 coat checkers with buzzers like America’s got talent your act would be buzzed off the stage XXXX.
This BEFORE, is common behavior and each coat checker has their acceptable threshold.  
For example, when I collect a coat. and a person has a scarf and it’s of average size, I will hang your scarf. It’s obvious that your the owner of both items. None of this 2 for 1 deal… coat check is not a buy one get one free deal.  

And for my thinkers out there.. I didn’t forget about you. Here is the logical scoop. The reason why double ups/ creative shoving are a deal breaker is that if your homie leaves, and takes their coat not giving you a ticket and you show up without a ticket and say you shoved your whatever in the coat.. guess what your going to have to wait till the end of the night, you got screwed by thinking your idea was going to work. Or, too bad your friend took everything and now you have to walk home with a sweaty shirt and possibly catch a bad cold.. it all goes back to the ticket rule.. each item is accountable by a ticket number. And, that my friends is how coat check works.. Sometimes it takes a fall to learn your place, and sometimes following the rules does make sense.
Here is my advice.. Be Independent, and have your own number that way you come and go as you please. You’ll have a better time at the show/party than stomping,pointing, and yelling in front of strangers after you’ve had a few to throw back at the end of the night. Also, I urge you to talk to someone older than you or more experienced, and ask them about when they were going to clubs and going out what they did.. you’ll be surprised you may learn a thing or two and hear some quality back in the day stories.

Till Next Time,


It’s more of an Oberservation

It’s more of an Oberservation

The Crowd, it’s always the crowd. The crowd that plays together usually dresses, has similar tastes, and has the same (vibe) or acts and reacts to things in a like minded way.

I happened to be working a show that I had never heard of the band, these shows to me provide me with two reactions where have I been that I have never heard of this band, and that I am aging and not as hip to the trip but things happen so fast I always play it by ear. I like those moments when a band I have never heard of blows my mind and shocks me.

But back to this show the Crowd was a post high school to first couple years in college kinda crowd. It’s like all the people you hung out with in high school are now officially 21+ and can drink kinda party/show and you all followed the same high school band. And now that band is part of the greater local scene and playing clubs.  More of an observation after talking to a patron of the show, ( I like to ask questions and some people spill everything); ” man I knew these guys when we were in high school and they are still playing in a band, but I went to the rival high school.” 25 patrons running around the club did go to the same high school and know the band intimately from their high school days and it was like a mini reunion, total fishbowl moment for them, and I just got sucked in.

With apple cider beer in hand the holiday weekend I think it was memorial day weekend; was into full swing since Monday was a holiday it was party time. This show was multi-layered: a reunion, an excuse to party with old friends, new friends, being single and ready to mingle you know the drill. A chance for the awkward high school ugly ducklings to shed their nerdy selves and appear as swans ready to seduce. Where the girl with the secret crush on the lead singer is now able to strut her stuff and make a new first impression without braces. A time to see that guy that was always double fisting drinks in high school parties, still holding strong and still double fisting bottles of beer this time with the added vapor cigarette or hookah.

And an ode to the middle opener band busting out of the crowd that soccer chant  ole, ole, ole.. o – le …o-le.. because somethings in high school never leave. I think this was as close to a high school reunion as I was gonna attend. The energy of the crowd was off the hook they were excited and happy and on the road to drunkerville, and for the time their middle local boys took the stage the crowd took over the venue. It was their time and the rest of us were just there to experience it.

I guess my observations that night were so clear that I could not help notice all the stuff that reminded me of my college party days. Especially, those first two years right out of college, where you still run into folks on a regular basis. It was one of those I been down that road too…moments. Sometimes it’s just a trip to watch people because you get reminded of slice of life moment you had. Obviously, you rocked it way harder because you’re old school.

And this week you get a link.. whoo haa I will  be doing a special update post with more but for now enjoy





Cost Free? Not at the Coat Check.

Hey Everyone,

I’m Back in full action. I am quite excited to announce that I have been busy at work getting interviews set up and I am in the middle of giving this blog some new components. This weeks blog is about money.. MONEY!

Money does make the world go round, I have talked about money in the beginnings of this blog and throughout it, but let’s shed more light on this topic of money. Back in the day I used to be a travel agent, and trust me I’ve heard it all.. and amongst us travel agents we used to say that if you go on vacation, you should always be prepared to spend the amount you spent on your vacation package on yourself,or something very close to that. For example, your not going to buy a trip to Vegas with hotel and airfare for 350.00 bux, and show up with $50.00 for the few days that you are there. I mean you could if you were one of those people featured on some reality show like extreme coupon cutters. And this leads me to extend this same concept to when you go out.

When one goes out to a show.. how much money do you take with you? Well, one needs some money for transport, beer, dinner, COAT CHECK, merchandise from the band. Ya’ll this is not brain surgery, if you go out to a show with $10 bucks then your gonna get a $10 dollar night which is totally doable. You can get on the bus for 2 bucks, got to McDonalds or Pop-eyes for $3bucks, go to a liquor store and buy some cheap ass beer $1 a can, and go by the merch table and hopefully the band you saw has a free item for you like a sticker or a free download card, that leaves you with $4 bucks. Now folks, I have been around the block so this $10 dollar night is totally doable. But, on your $10 dollar night on your escapades don’t grovel.. In general, most people don’t go up to the bartender and say, hey I really don’t have any money but can I get a free drink? believe me I know for a fact there are people who will do that, but the response you’ll get from the bartender is “Next in Line” unless your related to the bar, bartender, have a drink ticket, or your entrance ticket covers a free drink then buddy your outta luck.

And then, there is the same question posed to the coat check. And, I think other coat checkers out there will agree. The coat check is such a small fee, by asking for a free check when you clearly see a sign that coat check is $2 per item, and then asking only puts your coat checker in an odd situation. First of all you are going to get a no. And let me tell you why…1. you’d be taking up hanger space 2. I’d be exhausting my energy, who works for free? especially till 2am or 6am 3. we have to give you a return ticket, and those cost money, return tickets are how coat checks operate it ensures you get your item back. 4. tickets are how the venue keeps track, so basically you are asking your coat checker to personally pay for your coat, man that is really bold, and personally speaking you suck! It only makes me cringe at the sight of your face and with a smile say no.  It’s like me a coat checker going to your place of work and saying can I get that for free? oh your a graphic artist can you design a flyer for me for free? oh you work at Macy’s can I get those shoes for free? Oh you work at that restaurant, can I get my dinner for free? Oh you work for comcast cable, can I get my cable for free? Oh you work at that auto body shop, can you fix my breaks for free? Get it…?

And, unless it’s a special event where you see FREE coat check in Bold letters, then assume it’s between $2-10+bucks.

I guess I am just trying to shed more light and intelligent thinking out there in terms of how to go out and use a coat check or something similar.. people that work as bartenders, coat checkers, and valets, restaurant workers we get all these questions we are providing you with a service. It’s the service industry.. you pay something for a service that is how it works.  So with good intentions educate each other and pass it on.

Until Next Week



Musical Acts coming on Tour soon or are the hot ticket for this Summer are

Outside Lands – SF

Fun, Fun, Fun Fest

Die Antwoord

Culture Club

I’ll have some MP3’s to listen to in the next week.. of live performances

It’s getting hot in here

It’s Summer! Hi Everyone, Summer is upon us and there are definite changes in what you are wearing these days. Over the past few weeks working in coat check I have noticed coat and jackets have morphed into spring and summer wear. Less bulk, to match the weather. In the Summertime, what comes into coat check changes. The last shift I worked I would definitely say was more backpack and bag oriented. Followed by light shells of coats, denim jackets. vests, windbreakers, light sweaters etc.

Summer is a great time to be going out there are festivals, outside concerts, events, block parties, parades you name it’s about to roll around. This weeks coat check focuses on packaging what you brought. In one of my first blogs, I referred to people digging in their bags as “diggers”, looking into a bag that seems like an endless hole, where you know you put something away, and are actively trying to retrieve it. This is not a bad thing, but it does hold up the line for coat check. I recommend taking a few mins, before you come to the coat check window to check in your items, and double check what you are showing up with, what you will need, and where you are storing it; i.e. ( your ID, credit card). and then check it. You will have to take your claim number and put it somewhere, and these days just get creative take your cellphone and snap a picture. I always encourage this.

If you find yourself at an outdoor event, festival, big concert. You will have to plan ahead to bring the provisions you will need all day long. So the night before make a checklist. Go to the festivals website and see what you can actually bring in, the rules change all the time. Some festivals may provide a locker system, you can rent one for the day they look like the one you’d find at the local skating rink. They are great because you and your friends can share it and you can stop by and get stuff as you need.

If you find yourself as an outdoor event, there may be a tent where you may be able to store your items as well. Just make sure that you ask the attendant on the rules.

So enjoy yourselves, get to a summer show! You all have earned it.

I’m going to be updating later on this week a summer list of shows.